I wish that motherhood were as pretty as my maternity photos! I’m gonna be real with you -it’s tough. I don’t think that people talk about that enough. I believe that many Moms feel ashamed of how discouraged they get so they keep quiet and repeat all the cliches that’s expected of them like, “I’m so in-love with my baby” and “My baby is the best thing that’s ever happened to me”. Life happening will challenge all those clichés! I could talk all day about the joys of motherhood because yes, the joys greatly outweigh the not so joyful moments but what often goes unstated is that sometimes you want to pull out all of your hair, or you cry because you feel like a failure or the way your kid(s) behave simply doesn’t make you happy with them, yourself or God. YES there are times when being a Mom SUCKS and you wanna just go back to that perfect month in your pregnancy and start over! LOL don’t act like it’s just me -you know you’ve felt the same way once or twice!!! It helps to remember that you’re not living the journey alone. God has your back. He has you, your children, your family -everything on His radar at all times. He has a plan for our lives.
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…” (1 John 4:18)
Motherhood isn’t picture perfect but love is. The love God has for me and my children is perfect. I believe that motherhood is an extension of God’s love. I LOVE my babies. Being able to express love through taking care of them and loving on them is something I take great pride in. Sometimes I kiss my kids so much and hug and squeeze them because I don’t want a day to pass without them feeling like they are loved. When I get busy and frustrated I try to slow down and focus in on Semira and her chatter or Bella’s wiggles and coos. I stop whatever I’m doing even if it means that dinner is ready later than usual or this and that doesn’t get done right away. I take in the moment even if it’s Bella crying at her lung’s full capacity and I just thank God for times like that. I romanticized motherhood prior to my babies. Even during pregnancy with Bella I forgot much of what I’d experienced with Semira like her crying fits and her not sleeping through the night.I remind myself that God loves me and God loves my children and love is all that matters. I’m not a perfect Mom but I know that nothing will ever replace my love in my kid’s lives -just like nothing can ever take the place of God’s love in mine.
“God’s way is perfect. All the LORD’s promises prove true. He is a shield for all who look to him for protection.” (Psalm 18:30)
Motherhood isn’t picture perfect but God’s plan is. While I’m worried about screwing up my kids because of my character flaws, past mistakes and future mistakes I’ll make, God is steadily working it all out. Moms, we’ve been entrusted with something immeasurably amazing, resilient, and forgiving. And God has promised to be with us every step of the way. He has a purpose for our lives individually, as Moms and also a unique plan for our children. I guarantee that your journey won’t go as planned. Mine certainly hasn’t. All the advice in the world can’t prepare you for what you’ll face nurturing, growing and raising little humans. I’ve found that motherhood is more than just changing diapers, getting up in the middle of the night, their first day of kindergarten or when they graduate high school. Motherhood is about ALL of those moments and whether those moments spoke love, care, concern, hope, to the child’s heart.
“…My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)
Motherhood isn’t picture perfect but God’s grace is sufficient. What is grace? Grace is the answer, the solution, the miracle, the way out of no way that has nothing to do with you but has everything to do with God. I encourage you to pray daily asking God for His grace to be the kind of mother that He has predestined you to be. Raising up a little human takes massive amounts of prayer. And me, I pray ALL THE TIME. I pray that generational curses are broken and don’t affect my children. I pray that God continues to equip me with everything that’s needed to raise my children according to His will. I pray that my children have long lives full of love and prosperity. I pray DAILY for their salvation and that they accept Jesus into their hearts as Savior sooner than later. I pray for their WHOLE LIVES. You are your child’s first prayer warrior! You also set the example that teaches your child how to pray. Your prayers in the midst of all that you face daily will be so very vital to both your lives.
What’s my point?
I want you to know that you’re not alone. How you feel is valid. You’re a Mom and you can do this! There are going to be some incredible days. But when you experience frustrating days -embrace them. Open up wide so you can be filled up with all the goodness, restoration, wisdom and refreshing that God has to offer. I’m a 2nd time Mom after 9 years…it’s been tough. I say so after praying and praying and praying to get pregnant so that I could experience pregnancy, birth and new life again. And it happened -God blessed me! And it’s been both everything that I imagined and much of what I hadn’t. But, I’m amazed at the journey. Imperfect me, chosen to be a mother. I’m no know it all. I’m thirsty for God’s leading. I cry often when my babies cry. I plead often with the Holy Spirit for ease and patience.